Understanding the difference between a Femdom , Domme, Dominatrix, and Findom

I feel this blog is necessary because after examining ... Most of you have no clue the difference so I figured , let me educate you! Now in this alternative lifestyle we call BDSM ... These terms DO correlate, but they ARE very different. I also realize there are no predefined set of acts that fall between each but I find there is a different inclination and set of beliefs that vary between the three. Some of you may not know where you fall in the spectrum and this helps. Hopefully I can capture this accurately ....

Femdom - Female Dominance A (genetic born) woman that believes in Female Supremacy ideology in its purest form. Femdoms believe because they are female, they are superior and they live this in every aspect of their lives. These are women who use men for , money , sexual gratification, advancement in status and feel its the obligation of the male to provide for her well being , happiness and lifestyle. She also feels it is her duty to do so. Men have no value, aside from the before mentioned reasons and procreation. Now let me give you an example of this. The Amazonian's are an example of a Femdom mentality & society. The Amazonian's believed that all men should be slaves!

They used these men as sex slaves for gratification as well as procreation. All females born were trained, schooled and raised in status in society . Women were hunters, warriors, scholars. All males born from these interactions were immediately separated from the society taken as slaves, sent into the wilderness, killed or sent to their fathers. A completely Matriarchal Society.

Now in the 21st century we certainly cant do most those of these things but the ideologies still stand true. So what does that mean as a femdom? Well as a Femdom let me answer you ..It means yes, I have sex with men and enjoy it and they are discarded or kept as I see fit, mere playthings! Yes, I have slaves that are trusted, vetted, screened and have developed that bond with me over time. Yes they are allowed to worship my body when I see fucking fit and its requisite! Whether that be my Ass or Asshole, my feet or orally pleasing me, or even being my human toilet and waste receptacle that is my choice as a Femdom! I play this way in both a professional and lifestyle space! Why? Simply, because it is how I choose to live! Hate it or Love it ...Im happy and living authentically! I DO ME!!!

Dominatrix - (Domme, pro-domme the french variation of the word ) A female that takes a Dominate role in BDSM play and that is at times paid to engage in BDSM play and or activity in a professional play-space or online(edomme). Some play with in their lifestyle or personal space, that being her choice for most it is a business, their job. The subs/slaves that engage with them also tribute in some capacity in exchange for the interactions with the Domme.
The Ancient Mesopotamian and Sumerians are an example of a dominatrix mentality in society. Where Goddess would make certain gods fall to their submission. Even though equals, god and goddesses rituals were performed where gods were punished , forced to cross dress and even reduced to painful play!

Again todays standards are different. We are all mere mortals ! lol Most dommes do not have sex with their clients, nor do most support the Female Supremacy ideologies 100%. They have relationships with men where they consider them as equal partners. Some have relationships with men where they are even submissive, subservient or switching. These individuals often use titles such as: Mistress, Goddess, Domina, Princess, Queen. Again with no predefined set of acts ... So what does that mean to dominatrices? Most dominatrix are just women who only exude power over those that relinquish it. In other facets of life they are what society refers to as normal women, some even consider some as there men equals.

Findom - ( Financial Dominatrix; Edomme) now a findom is a Financial Dominatrix. Now Findoms can be virtual/edommes. Findoms can be real time pros, life stylers, that are proficient in the kinks/fetishes that interest them and they bring that to the financial domination space. Where interaction requires renumeration. So what does that mean to a findom?
Begging, using sympathy, cajoling, scamming using underhand deceitful tactics to obtain sub/slave interaction are all inappropriate ways to establish and/or build any successful D/s relationship! You hold the cards! You set the pace! You control the tone! For any conducive D/s to work, that requires honesty, effort and interest. All of those being the opposite of the previously mentioned adjectives!

Now Femdoms can be a Findoms and vice versa ... But a Dominatrix can never be a Femdom, but she can be a Findom. Its all in the inclination & ideologies!
No matter where you fall on the spectrum, every slave and master relationship is custom fit! No two are the same! Each kink, fetish, fetishist and lifestyle are different. So to judge the dynamic of an individual M/s or D/s relationship, kink, fetish is close minded and small! Remember, we share a commonality. We all in this lifestyle are already judged by society for going against societal norms.

Even though I have tried to define something that has an ever evolving definition and is relative to each individual. NEVER LET ANYONE TELL YOU HOW YOU SHOULD LIVE OR PREDEFINE YOU! YOU CAN NEVER PLACE ME IN A BOX!! WHY ??BECAUSE YOU HAVE NEVER SEEN ANYTHING LIKE ME! SO I UNDERSTAND WHY YOU ARE CONFUSED. Some of you may feel the same way some may not. I hope this blog helps evolve the perceptions of some people and help them grow tolerance for something and/or someone they don't understand. Be receptive!

May the odds be forever in your favor ladies !!!

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